What? Is it one year down? It just feels like it started one month back and it is wrapping up so sooner! However, I must say, the comfort and contentment that the thought of a new year brings itself is immense. The cheerfulness of new hopes and new dreams!
I’m sure each of you has countless morals to look upon this passing year has taught. Today, I want to take you through my insights and lessons I learnt that I felt like sharing as I’m sure you will be able to connect it in one or the other phase of your life.
Everything changes and most importantly people change. I was a person who was rotating around some predefined conceptions, no matter whatsoever turnaround, my circle of people are never meant to fall apart. Unfortunately, this year taught me a very different lesson. People change! They change the way they were supposed to be. However, we have to thrive on the change and adapt. People make promises as friendships for a lifetime. Today, I doubt how many of those were fulfilled. How many lost connections with their friends who once called themselves ‘best friends forever’? As we all move ahead in life, priorities change so are our responsibilities. Later, it is the place where you stand in their priority list that decides how much you people are connected.
Less drama. Learn to say NO. I used to be very conscious and equally concerned on how other people would perceive if I disagree with them. I have been scared throughout my life to say a NO. I guess each of us is groomed more as a people pleaser than expressing genuinely what we feel. This year I figured out the power of saying a NO. I promise, the thorough relief of being true to self is the greatest satisfaction you can gain! I presumed if something is committed to me, I had no other choices left until I realised lately that we always have the choice to agree to disagree. Whether it’s in our personal or professional life, cultivate the habit of genuineness. It might take a little grit, but you can live a life of zero regrets.
Making yourself a priority is never overrated. In between all the chaos of life, we forget to take a little time for ourselves. In the race of better education, better career and more money, I have least exerted to try makeovers for myself. Today, I know I should not rush. I discovered that slowing down to taking care of myself has to be my matter of concern. Asking myself whether I’m happy with my life and happy in what I’m doing has assisted me a lot this year to make the right choices for myself.
You can’t make everything everywhere all together. I was impatient when I can’t make everything all at once. It is much like I want to watch the dusk and dawn simultaneously! I feel I have been so dumb even so I’m grateful for my cognizance. I craved for a trip to Goa yet I’m not mentally assembled to lose a single penny. I wished to stay in my room in Bangalore yet I wished to be at my friend’s wedding in Kerala. I have always been a jumbled puzzle of my own, stacking lumps of overthinking thoughts into my head! With time, I accepted the fact that, I will have to lose something to gain something. I grasped that, I have to choose wisely and come up with decisions of my own.
Things happen in an unpredictable way. Let it pass. This happened while I was heading back home after a function. I was on a two-wheeler motor bike while my gown got tangled inside the wheels and tossed myself on to the road. For a moment or two, I felt numb and fainted! Sooner I realized the bike has fallen over my legs and I’m unable to pull my legs out. I got some severe burns and blisters which took almost a month to heal. Today when I look back, I see a valiant me who didn’t give up at my lowest. The worst part when you are in your worst days is, you will feel like the entire world is crumbling. You won’t be able to find light in that darkness. It takes a lot of courage and resilience to discover the lost you.
The worst part when you are in your worst days is, you will feel like the entire world is crumbling.
Never heed what random people say, listen to your heart. Recently I wanted to quit my job as I was moving out. I was not sure how I should approach my boss. I sought advice from a few seniors randomly asking them what would happen if any of my batch mates wanted to quit in between. Most of them had the same set of replies for me. The replies were: “No way! There is no way out!”, “This company will never let you leave”, “Just abscond! That’s the best way out.” I didn’t get an answer that convinced my heart. One fine day, I decided to have a straight conversation with the CEO regarding the same. To my surprise, he approached the matter with all compassion and even had solutions to resolve it! Thus, the moral of this story is, follow your heart and let it do the rest! If I had absconded in between, I’m sure I would have been the symbol of cowardice for life in the eyes of all my colleagues.
Your family is the best pillar you can lean over. I was not a family person. I mean, I was more into my friends than family. I used to run for bits of advice to friends than letting my family know whatever I had been through. This year yielded another lesson. Today I know people will come and leave, but my family is the only shade I can count on at any point in my life. And I believe this is the best lesson this year has taught me.
Thus, those were the few chapters of 2022! While writing all these, reliving the pages, I feel fortunate and gratified for everything that came my way. The treasured bunch of friends who came into my life, for some memorable travel diaries and a lot more. I’m sure each of you has plenty of stories in your version of 2022! Feel free to share with me your tale of life. I will be really happy to hear back from you.
As we are treading into the New Year, let us be the best of the lot. It is time to make your checklist and wish list all set to go! Universe is listening you. Evolve!
Advanced Happy New Year!
Much love,
Manasa
